Hi, my name is Donna, I am telling my story in the hope it may help someone in the same position. I am also hoping someone may be able to help me with my ongoing problem related to this. Please feel free to E-Mail me if you think I may be able to help you or if you have any advice for me with regards to my current court case.
I was 16 years old when I met Mick, just a few months after we started seeing each other, I realised I was pregnant. Naturally, I was nervous but I was also happy, I knew the baby would be no problem, I just wasn't too sure about the father. When I told him, he was excited and wanted to tell his parents straight away.
We went to his parents home the same day, they seemed very excited, they did not seem at all concerned about our age, jobs or where we would live. They would brag about Mick getting set up with an office girl. (their first reaction when I told them I did accounts was "ooh, snobby") I thought it was just their sense of humour and thought no more of it.
Afterwards, we both visited my parents to tell them, My mum knew before I had a chance to tell her. She looked surprised but assured me she would stand by me no matter what I decided to do. My Dad went quiet for a while, but soon came round to the idea of being a grandad. I will always be grateful for their help and support, at this point I had no idea of how much I would need them in the future.
Mick seemed pleased about the baby, we would go out and spend our wages on cute baby things. Mick bought me an engagement ring, our families were making an effort to get on, things seemed to be working out really well.
We started to spend a lot of time at Mick's brothers home, I got on great with his wife and we became close friends. They had two lovely children, a 2 year old girl and a new-born boy. I loved spending time with them. As we grew closer, his wife would confide in me about problems she was having with Mick's brother. She loved him dearly but said he often slapped her, her family were catholic, when she asked them for help, they told her marriage is for life, no matter what. She told me she had lost twins before they had married and she had suffered a miscarriage after their little girl was born. I could also remember, just before she gave birth to the little boy, she suffered bruised ribs. It turned out Mick's brother had pushed her up against the banister during a row.
I couldn't believe he was like that, he seemed lovely. I told Mick what she had told me, he said "oh yeah, he's always been like that, my Dad was the same, I can remember him dragging my Mum downstairs by the hair". I was shocked, they seemed a close family, but then again, I hadn't known them long. Mick said the best thing we could do was to visit as often as possible and to be there if were needed. Mick said his brother was a low-life and he would never treat me like that as he couldn't bear the thought of losing me.I was very naive at the time, and was reassured by this.
I was still living at my parents home and he was living at his. I can remember this night so clearly, I was going to spend the night with Mick, just before we went to bed, I had a show of blood, I was scared, I was 13 weeks pregnant and was looking forward to having the baby so much. I told Mick I was worried and why. He went downstairs and asked his Mum to come and talk to me. She came up and told me not to be so stupid, it was perfectly normal, it happens all the time. She made me feel like I was being silly. I went to bed and tried not to think about it. As Mick got into bed, he said we can still have sex, my Mum said you're OK. I decided to go home.
When I got in I told my mum, she told me to tell her if it got any worse. When I woke up the next morning, I was in agony, when I went to the bathroom, I realised I was hemorrhaging. My parents took me to hospital, Mum stayed with me while Dad went to fetch Mick. When Mick arrived, my parents left us alone. Mick started having a go at me saying we should have picked him up before we went to the hospital. He said they hadn't considered his feelings as it was his baby too. I just cried I did't have the energy to do anything else, I was lying in bed not knowing if my baby was alive or not.
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